Educating Children Stubborn And Endurance

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Stubborn child

Children ages 2-7 years (Preschool is often labeled extreme for wanting to try whatever they see and also found 'not listening'.

What happens is that the absence of two-way communication between parents and children. In addition children actually can not hear directions well because not paying attention to the voice of parents.

Instead, their attention is focused on their game and who want to explore the environment. Children have very limited verbal communication because they do not have knowledge of it.

They also just learning to talk, so parents often can not understand what the child wants. Therefore, let the child scream, throw things, and so ruin the game because of frustration because his needs are not understood and met.

Even children know exactly disappointed his / madam. Therefore, who is guilty? Of course, because adults do not seek to understand the needs of the child.

There are several tips that can be given to the master / her effort to overcome this problem.

1 Children desperately need love and affection and attention from both parents. If the father is rarely engage children, of course, would distract his mother. So try to understand the language of children with gentle ask him. Leave a little of what you / she do and give attention to the child. Look in her face and her eyes stared. How many times a day we eye contact with the child. Eye contact is very important in any kind of communication even with small children.

2 Once the master / her home from work and take the child from the nursery, spend half an hour in advance with your child. Never went to the kitchen to cook, lift the cloth etc. First Listen sir / madam to children. Ask a gentle and friendly that it makes a day at home with the maid or the nursery / kindergarten. Support and hug him and give ear, papa / mama very loved her. Play with more than half an hour, then ask yourself gentlemen for the kitchen, etc.. Insha Allah the child will be heard because of the attention he had hoped was obtained.

3 Teach children the words "can wait", if the child needs something and you / she can not give it because was busy cooking, etc.. And treat them as soon as he had the opportunity. Do not do not know anywhere or indifferent because actually sir / madam are teaching children to ignore the master / madam if you are / she is called. The right way to make her listen to you is by listening to her first. We can not expect our children obey every command because God does not make it happen so. Remember, children learn by imitating each of our actions. The proof can be seen when he served his brother as well.

4 Try to understand the personality of the child. Each child is endowed by God with a personality of its own. Children who love to scream despite not having any reason can be categorized as Sanguine Personality. This child is very like the attention. Therefore, if the child is screaming, give attention to him as looked at him, if he clapped loudly singing etc.. However, sir / madam can teach him that act like screaming is not good because it can interfere with sleeping little sister. If your child likes to scream, sir / madam can have him facing a blank wall and screaming in there repeatedly until he tired. God willing, he will not like to scream and found the activity tiring. Maybe he will stop screaming or making behavior a few days. If he repeats it again, madam asked her to do the same thing until he eventually stopped. Give her a gift (candy, etc.) if you / she found she did not yell or scream less in one day as a positive reinforcement. Tell him, papa / mama give chocolate gifts for sister did not scream today. This child will understand that papa / mama do not like the act.

5 Always remind yourself sir / madam with the positive nature of the child. Lithe and neglected children entertained. Pay attention to your / her on the edge, do not remember the lack of child and pray every prayer that God will enable you / she changed the nature of the negative. Imagine a child with all the positive properties of the host / her home every time you / she interacts with the children. Can also master / her to do so and a half hours after the child was in bed and sleep soundly. Gently pat him on the crown of his head, kissed and recite prayers and say hope you / she to him. Eg 'papa / mama dear sister, papa / mama do not want my sister scream. Mention specific things that you / she wants. Do not just say 'papa / mama sister please change' or mention the negative tone as' mpapa / ama dislikes sister screaming. This technique is called imagery or visualization and found to be very effective if done repeatedly. Dear Sir / Madam can also recite Surah AlFatihah, Ayat Kursi and 3 Kul to children every time they went to bed to keep from Satan.

Dear Sir / Madam, educating children is not easy, let alone in the challenging era of globalization. Good sir / madam more patient, do not set aside the child and try to understand it.

Understand the world of children who have no problems, full of fun and exploration. Imagine the feelings of children when scolded when trying to effect what is to explore the environment.

Children living in a world without rules. Ibubapalah who make the rules, discipline and encouragement to the child.

Buy books on child-rearing guide, knew his personality and ways of coping.

I suggest sir / madam tried to get the book entitled "Personality Plus for Parents" by Florence Littauer available at Kinokuniya, MPH, etc..

Indeed investments parents do for their children will be children as the largest asset most valuable in life.

Thank you, may Allah bestow mercy and wisdom to master / madam. Do not give up the child because it will make the children give up on us as parents. Wallahua'lam